So I met a guy on this millionaire dating site and we went out on a date... The thing was he was more attractive in his picture than he was in person. So take lots of pics so the other person can get a true view of the person they are going to meet.
But, it wasn't just that... I just didn't feel a connection. He didn't get my jokes, and was kind of dull. I know what it feels like to be rejected, and didn't want to "reject". I thought he would get the hint by me not responding to his text. Finally, I was honest and told him that I was sorry but that I wasn't available for a second date. I told him thanks for the opprotunity of getting to know him, and I wished him the best. Still...he continued to text.
So my advice, please just take the hint, and don't take it personally.
I don't know too many people that have been into the dating scene and not been rejected at one time or another. Couple of key thoughts: It takes as much nerve to reject someone as it does to ask someone out. Don't try to 'paint' people as 'untouchables' --- 'outa-my-league' type of people. I'm quite sure they never asked to be put there. If they choose not to go out with you...they probably have very specific reasons.--Worrying and 'what-ifing' and "What's Wrong With Me?"--Is a self-imposed jail that you 'choose' to put yourself in. DON'T!! Remember that you will obviously have more fun with people that you have more things in common with and if it is based on 'Surface Characteristics' -- (Appearance Only) then that kinda stuff is as 'shallow' as it gets. It is a large world and the internet makes it very easy to match up with similar people with similar interests and characteristics. Don't be limited by old habits, try new things! Get out of your comfort zone enough to learn new things. Rejection is a nice way of saying 'No Thank You' like when the brussel sprouts are passed around the table. Class is moving on with dignity (believing in who you are) and Grace-- well that is handling rejection with maturity and realizing that you have a 'Responsibility' to that imperfect someone who is out there for you to build a future with!
Being a highly successful sales representative it was very helpful early in my career (and upon initial diagnosis, as well as, current dating scenarios) to accept each rejection as being one step closer to acceptance by applying the "rule of thumb" of selling pencils on a corner. It is an established/statistical fact (which you may test for yourself)that on average 1 out of every 10 people you ask to buy a pencil will. Sometimes it is the first person you ask (rarely) and (equally as rare)it is the last person you ask. The acceptance usually comes somewhere in between. The point to keep in mind is that each rejection brings you closer and closer to acceptance (your goal). The most successful people in life regardless of profession advertantly or in-advertantly practice this principle and turn "negatives" (such as rejection) into "positives" thereby, pushing forward to great achievements! I think the greatest fear/challenge to those of us with an STD is dealing with societal and, more importantly, individual rejection (especially when dating). Many give up on life and stop living, dating, etc. all together. Again, keep this "rule of thumb" in mind and push forward. Your success is ultimately inevitable proven)!
It's not mandatory that we look at rejection through a negative point of view. Rejection is quite normal and it does not define who we are as individuals. There are so many singles on the millionaire dating clubs, but we just need the right one among all those millions of singles. Most of the time if a person rejects you, its a sign, the encounter was not meant to go further than a greeting. Looking through a positive lens would probably show you that you saved time, energy , effort, and a possible broken heart? I believe their is someone special out there for all, we just have to grow patience... And if someone rejects you, it usually means that guy is polite to your message. Haven't you sent out lots of messages without getting a response? Compared with those who are not willing to send you one word, the rejection is much more friendly. So, just take it normally.
At the same time, you may also receive some messages from those you are not willing to date, simply hit the reply button and tell them you will not be good match.
Reality is that in life you will encounter people that will not have the same amount of interest in you, as you do in them and you know what..THAT IS OKAY! So, don't be suprized if you are rejected when you want to date someone. Let alone, you are dating in such a high class dating club Millionaire Matchmaker.
Though our differences make us unique, the fact that we are all gathered here for the same reason UNITES us. Don't take it personal. Everything happens for a reason.
So THAT ONE, may not be YOUR ONE, but keep trusting that THE ONE for you is still out there. New people join this site everyday. That means that each new day presents new opportunities to meet that special person we are all in search of.
Rejection is not easy but believe that it is not the end all, say all. You get up, brush your self off, and move forward. Never allow rejection to change who you are or compromise what you're looking for. Eventually that one you seek will find their way to you.
When dating on the Internet, please be prepared for rejection.
I have found that a lot of people are caught up on things that look good. In the past, I have met ladies that's look at my Pict and never return my emails. And sometimes it does hurt my feelings because I know I'm handsome. But everyone is not looking for the same things in a mate. I have decided to take it all in stride and keep it moving. Because there is someone for everybody.But the rejection on line feels twice as bad. Because you have not even had a chance to wow this her in person. I have also had cases where I met ladies, and they were more impressed by my looks in person than online.
So my advice is to be open minded about the pictures you see online, and be prepared for rejection. And if it happens to you, just keep it moving.....
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